'I kind of snapped': 26-year-old health employee has had it and gives management a piece of her mind, is wondering if maybe she went too far

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Dec 29, 2023 10:00 AM EST

Is it a fireable offense to snap at your boss? Or is it a normal human slip-up that happens from time to time? I would go with the latter, but some managers take it as an insult to their authority. The insecure managers. The manager that would throw you under the bus the second you get just a little on their nerves. Unfortunately, there are many managers like this out there running things. So what do you do? One young Redditor asked this exact question. 

She works in the health industry and is quickly learning the ropes of her career. She graduates college soon and has a job that isn't her favorite but is willing to stick it out until her real job begins after she graduates in several months. However, her upper management is proving that sticking it out is harder than it sounds. She is getting more and more frustrated because the supervisors who are supposed to come to relieve her after her shift are always late and don't show any remorse about it. This forces her to work past her shift hours with no breaks and she has had it. In the height of her frustrations, she let upper management have a piece of her mind without holding back. Now, after some time has settled and she's cooled off, she's wondering if maybe she went too far. What do you think?

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    Posted by u/Historical_Smoke2739 3 days ago I kind of snapped... I don't know what will come of it. Have you ever snapped at work?
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    I've worked my job for 3.5 years and there are many problems within it but the most direct in-your-face problem is that one particular shift has most of the favorites in it and so they get away with a lot.
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    Mainly with coming in late consistently. They are supposed to come in between a certain time to receive shift 5 they always come in at the very last second. They will even wait outside to wait for the last minute.... then of course they expect shift report or apologies or act like nothing is wrong. They
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    have even gone as far as refusing to relieve people on my shift if they come in the office at an appropriate time. This has been going on for years and I am soo tired of it. We were short staffed that day so we weren't able to take a break... then
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    on top of that they came in late again... so my typical 8hr shift with a 30 minute break turned into 8 hrs and 40 minutes straight. I wrote a quick little angry-
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    semi professional note for a supervior with examples of what has been an almost daily occurrence and how it has been a problem that needs to be fixed (they already know everything they just do nothing).
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    In hindsight I realize I probably should have taken a breather and wrote a professional email. I am kind of worried if there will be retaliation because of the favoritism, if not, it will probably just be dismissed. I have never done anything like this at my job for fear of losing my job. But i am tired.
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    Have you ever snapped at work? Was their subtle retaliation or was it blown up into you creating a hostile work environment? How did you navigate it?
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    Edit: to explain, I work at a job with a population we can't abandon. So I can't just leave if there is not enough staff or next shift comes in late.
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    The only reason I am staying is because they pay is good and I am almost done with school, so I am trying to stick it out.
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    There is an overlap. Officially the overlap is 30 minutes but with every shift it is typically a 15 minute overlap (that's what supervisors want).
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    Shift has to be on-site and clocked in at 5 to be considered on time. If they arrive the very last minute of overlap, 5:30. They are half an hour late because their shift starts at 5, not 5:30. They have a quick meeting and then get shift report from us...
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    supervisors ask shifts to be in the office with last shift 15 minutes into their shift so there is enough time. Sometimes there is no meeting or supervisor in which they are supposed to relieve the next shift when they get to work at 5.
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    They won't get their until 5:30, which makes me have to stay past my 8 hours. So it isn't that they are 'starting early'. They are already clocked in and should be in the office 15- 20 minutes into their shift as that is the expectation for every worker on that
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    site. (sometimes they will clock in at 5am and then leave campus to get food/coffee even though they have enough staff for one person to cover while they go on their 'first break'. Yes, they take extra
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    breaks. 1-15hrs at the least within an 8 hr shift, that again anyone else would be written up for.) It is also common for 6-7 people to be scheduled and only 3 show up for their shift.
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    Automatic Poetry6777. 3 days ago This is a good example of why you should speak up for yourself sooner rather than later. When you're calm and collected, rather than letting it build up to anger.
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    Stargazer_0101. 3 days ago It is far better to go when you are calmed down and not in anger, for go at it in anger insures that you will get fired for it.
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    Cerulean_IsFancyBlue 3 days ago Anger is natures way of assuring we don't get completely taken advantage of. Unfortunately, people who rely on that to handle all their confrontations, miss a lot of opportunities to handle the confrontations better.
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    Spare-Bread8416. 3 days ago It's just a sign it might be time for a new workplace IMO. Bad managers don't usually get better. 27 Reply Share Historical_Smoke2739 OP 3 days ago Yeah. I am in college rn and only have one semester left so I was trying to 'stick it out'.
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    maryjanevermont · 3 days ago So recognize this frustration. When the shift getting off is trying to catch a bus or pick up kids. When it is 15 min every day, and then they show up with A CUP OF COFFEE.! Salt in the wound.
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    You have done your part, if a little messily. Now it's time for others to speak up if you have team meetings. That way it's clear it's not one disgruntled staff but a system issue that needs to be addressed
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    Ashland 78 3 days ago I work in a professional environment. I snapped one day to my boss, and he didn't deserve it at all. It was over a misunderstanding, as he was a new manager, doing an expected task given from higher up. In the past year, I did that task. I don't recall what exactly I said or did as I was heated.
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    I had my monthly 1:1 shortly after during that week. I apologized to him for being unprofessional and my misunderstanding - I owned it. He looked me straight in the eye and said, "I don't know where that came from,
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    but I realize you were having an off day. I already am over it, but please don't make this a regular thing." I learned from that. It was not his fault at all. My advice is to own it. People snap at times. Please follow up, letting us know what happens.
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